I discovered the secret of true and deep and lasting happiness.
Aren’t we all looking for happiness? Aren’t there images everywhere, all around us, of ways that we could be happier? Don’t we, in almost all of our conversations, assume that happiness is the ideal state of being?
In my nutrition school last week, we had a lecture video by Gretchen Rubin, who researches habits and habit formation.
She gave us 7 keys to happiness. Here they are:
- Sleep 7+ hours every night.
- Exercise regularly.
- Cultivate good smells. (my favorite)
- Organize possessions and declutter your space.
- Make your bed every morning.
- Establish and deepen relationships.
- Build self-knowledge.
These are phenomenal suggestions, some of which you and I probably already knew. I have invested significant amounts of time in all of these areas since beginning my year of intention, as I’m now calling it. And, they work. If all of us do just these seven things, I think we’d see a significant improvement in happiness.
This led me to a conclusion of my very own. The secret to happiness.
Here’s my equation:
Health > Happiness
The sign in the middle is a greater than sign, maybe. It might also be an arrow. We could read this as “health is greater than happiness,” or “health leads to happiness.”
What kind of health? All kinds of health. A healthy body, a healthy brain, a healthy spirit. In R.A. training in college we called the health areas “SMELPS” – Spiritual, Mental, Emotional, Lifestyle, Physical, and Social.
These areas of health still matter in adulthood. Maybe more than ever.
Let me pose you a question:
Is there one thing that you know, if you did it right now, it would make you healthier? At this very moment?
Maybe it’s brushing your teeth. Maybe it’s having a glass of water. Maybe it’s reading a great book before bed. Maybe it’s listening to your favorite music, burning a favorite candle, remembering your favorite childhood bedtime story.
Do one of these things in the next 24 hours. Do one thing that makes you healthier. Maybe more than that. If you do a thing anyway, without meaning to, pause and recognize it. Like: “hey, healthy thing. Thanks for making me feel better!”
Odds are, it’s also something that makes you happier.
Both happiness and health live in the inconsequential corners of our lives. They reside in the minutia of our mundane daily rhythms. Health and happiness are both achieved by making small, intentional choices about how we spend the next moment.
Neither are things we “achieve.” Neither are permanent, nor are they a given. They take diligence and work, but not the hard or tasking or monumental kind.
Health, and therefore happiness, take the kind of work that begins with mindful attention to what we need or want, and ends with following through to get it for ourselves. Moment by moment.
Happy moments add up to make happy lives.